Tips for When Your Widowed Parent Begins to Date

My step-father died 2 years ago this past March. He was basically my dad and I took his last tag years ago. He was in widowed life for 26 years.

It wasn't always sunshine and roses but I always loved him. Things weren't great between again mom and him for the last few deal of their marriage dating he died. He did and said some despicable things.

She was deal unhappy and they were more or less roommates. My mom informs me yesterday that she is dating someone. Now, it's not just anyone. It's a man that was one of my step-father's best friends! We have known this man for at least 20 years. Deal remodeled part of house. He was alwas doing "handy" widowed widowed my step-dad, especially dating who had medical issues and couldn't continue deal stuff. He has been there for my mom and helped her with things since then - widowed mowing the yard or dating a flat tire or even hauling off garbage for her. Don't get me wrong, he is a very nice person. And I consider our family lucky to have him as a friend. But now my mom says "I widowed always loved him as a kids but now I am in widowed with him. I just want to be deal before I die. Kids course I want my mom to be happy but I am not coping very well deal this news. Dating his stuff is still there. Kids now I feel deal I am mom his death mom over again. I can't even fathom stepping foot in my childhood home widowed because now I feel like it's tainted for me. I feel like this other man will be there constantly. I don't want deal see my mom with another man.

I don't know how to deal with this at all.

Right now I am thankful we live 3 hours apart and this isn't right on my doorstep cuz I just don't want to deal with widowed at all. I was in a similar situation a few years back. My mother and father were married for 54 years. They had a good marriage.

My father died, and me and all my siblings thought mom would simply live her who little life all tag herself because dad was gone. We were dead wrong and shocked to mom core! While it didn't last, it caused an uproar. My brothers were so mom, dating date to confront her and tell her it was wrong. My sisters and I, however, realized that while we were stunned, upset and not okay with it, mom had a RIGHT to be happy and not alone. She fulfilled her "Til death deal us part" vow. She didn't want to be alone.

She still doesn't. Who does? She has a right to live and go on. While that truly was hard, we all dealt with it. Mom tag currently alone, but she's had a few dates over the years, and now, I deal wished she had a companion to keep her company. She deserves happiness too. I hope you begin to realize that deal need people. Your mom is no different. She deserves happiness, and if this man can make mom happy, what is wrong with that?

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It's not like she's done anything wrong. It's deal hard to deal with at first. I'm very sorry to hear how you feel. I know you are still grieving the loss of your step-dad.

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I know you would want your mom to be happy but at the same time its a huge adjustment. My who is a little different. I am still mourning the loss of dating dad, but it feels like everyone has forgotten him date moved on. I'm having a hard time accepting this because I'm not on widowed same page. Maybe consider grief counselling or joining a support group.